Family Nudity

[motherof3 (deleted)]

Mother_of_3 wants to know.

We are a family of 5, husband is 35; I am 33, and we have three children. Our son is 13 while the two sisters are ages 10 and 7. We have over the years practice naturalism with in the confines of our home and back yard pool. However during the winter months we are less likely to go about the house void of clothing for very long periods of time. Usually curtailing this activity just prior to or after our baths, or lazy Saturday / Sunday mornings when we first get out of bed as my husband and I have always slept in the buff. The children are free to express themselves any way they feel in regards to dress.

Here’s the problem, since our son turned 13 this past January, I have been grabbing my robe and putting it on before leaving the bedroom or bathroom. My husband has questioned me about this on several occasions and I have put him off by telling him that I was chilly. When in reality I no longer think it’s appropriate for our now teenage son to see his mom running around the house doing her chores in the buff. This became a heated discussion this past weekend when my husband questioned me again about putting a robe on when we got up Saturday and I told him I was concerned about our teenage son seeing his mom naked in the kitchen fixing everyone’s breakfast.

His comment was “What our son’s has all of the suddenly developed eye-sight? Has he started to stare or gawk at you?†I said of course not it was that I no longer felt comfortable? He said I was being ridiculous and that I was sending a bad message about body acceptance to him. He went on to say that the children may or may not develop signs of shyness once puberty started, but until that time it should be business as usual. If the kids want to start wearing clothes more, then they are free to do so at any time. They have never been pushed one way or another. He did say that he wished that I stick with nudity and not start setting a double standard, so I took my robe off. We spending the rest of the day in the buff.

Is there a problem here, or am I just being silly? Summer will be here in a few months and the pool will be open soon once again

[jim19452_PREV (deleted)]

Hi, motherof3,

I am totally unqualified by experience to respond, but 'fools rush in.' I agree with your husband. If your son should 'complain' that might make it different, but I doubt it. But until he does, continue to go nude.

Best Wishes,

Jim

[ncskinnydip]

I also agree with your husband. However, if you are still having a problem with this, why not approach your son with it. If he says he doesn't have a problem with your nudity, you can always tell him it is an open topic that he can discuss with you at any time...........skinny

[hubnude]

By all means, continue with the nudity. By covering yourself up, you are sending mixed signals. Your son may suddenly wonder why it's bad to see his mom naked just because he turned 13. My feeling is if the family is already enjoying family nudism, why stop. Family nudism should be encouraged. There's nothing at all wrong with it.

[brad09 (deleted)]

I don't doubt you have concerns but think just because someone has reached an age things don't have to change. If you have been doing this for some time...there is not need to stop just because he turned 13. I am still a big big fan of the phrase, "Sit down and talk about it." Too many times folks have concerns and they aren't addressed with the person involved...just I think they will feel this way. Talk with your son about it, ask his feelings, tell him yours, be open and honest. I think if you change course just because of his age its a bad thing. If there are other issues...then deal with those but don't give up a nice relaxing lifestyle just because of a number. Would you start going nude if he was 15? 20? is it ok again then? Your family has grown up with the lifestyle..please don't give it up because of a number..if you care to chat holler out.
Brad

[gs99]

Maybe what would put your mind at ease is for the whole family to go to a nudist resort. Most likely there will be other families with children of all ages including 13 year old sons and mothers.
I also get the impression of what your family started as just nudism has turned into a bit of a s----l issue for you. I could be wrong but to me it appears that now that your son is or has reached puberty that you think being nude will add a s----l aspect to it. When your daughters reach 13 will you make your husband start covering up or it is strictly a mother-son thing but father-daughter is completely OK? Also, are you afraid that your son may become aroused by your nudity? Or maybe you may become aroused by his since he is turning from a child into a man?

[karenl03 (deleted)]

To the mother of 3:

What is your problem?

Perhaps you need more nudity not less. Instead of limiting intrafamily nudism, you should expand it: Say after 1800 everyone is home and nude and you do things together. Set a schedule: Homework, in a common area (it is far too easy to play in one's room), dinner prep. Dinner with a family discussion on news topics. Chores: Dishes, laundry, house clean up, update daily journal.

I cannot even conceive of my father or mother worrying about any of my brothers or sisters seeing them nude. We were busy with other thinks and thoughts.

[aznative_PREV (deleted)]

I am now divorced and the kids are grown. While married we went nude around the house all the time. We didn't change when the kids came along. If the kids were aware of our nudity it was positive. No time did they give us any indication that they were embarassed by our being nude. We didn't close any doors or give any hints that we were ashamed or overly modest when they were around.
I don't know if the family kept up nudity since I got divorced. But know they are good kids and well adjusted. Kids of any age will give you indicators they are overly aware of you being nude and are gawking etc. If you put on a robe etc then you are giving mixed signals about modesty etc. Keep on being nude and everything will be ok. I agree with the other writers on this.

[nudistcouple]

Hi mother of 3, my wife and i are new to this site and we were intrigued by your situation. we do not yet have children of our own but we are fully planning on raising our children in the nudist lifestyle. we have talked about this regularly, and we both agree that in order for our children to grow up being comfortable with their bodies we must first set the example for them. if children see their parents "covering up" no matter what the age, it will send a message to them that there is a point where nudity becomes "dirty" or inappropriate and is no longer acceptable within the family environment. my wife and i have visited nudist resorts several times and we have met families with young children as well as families with adult children, and the parents we have spoke to said that the awkward feelings do go away. our suggestion would be to continue going nude - keep things business as usual around the house and you will get passed this awkward phase.

neil and heather

[jim19452_PREV (deleted)]

Summer is here. What did you do? The nudist resort I visit usually has three to five children ages 10 to 15, or whatever. They seem to be well adjusted to nudity and are well behaved.

Best Wishes, Jim

[sunlovers]

mom of 3 we are 56f58m been nudist almost 20 yr, we have 2 g that are now 30 and 32 and they are arried and still go nude with us as a familey, its nice when you feel good about it .. so we hope you da as your doing.. thanks Ron and Pam

[agdewave_PREV (deleted)]

Hi motherof3! I grew up in a naturist family and frankly it never occured to me to view my mom, or sister, or six girl cousins as S-- objects. In fact, as we went through all the awkward stages, all the usual house rules applied, whether clothed or not. The routine attitude of my parents set the tone. Their private time wasn't any different than in a textile family. At our naturist club, my kid mixed-gender friendship group actually talked about a lot of things, perhaps more openly than happened at school, and I remember thinking that some of my school friends got all in a twist over the dumbest things For instance, we knew what the opposite gender looked like at all ages so were a lot more focused on personality than equipment per se. We went through all the crushes and heartbreaks nevertheless, of course, but overall, I think naturism taught us to see people as people, to have a better inner sense of limits and what was important, and to be kinder and more respectful. Anyway, that was my experience. Of course, there are all kinds of parents... From your description, concern and thoughfulness, it sounds like your kids were very lucky in their selection of parents! LOL

[nudenwv]

yeah, have to agree with your husband. being that your son has been around nudity since a very young age,he probobly notices no difference as to arousal. i think if you don't make an issue of your feelings things will be as usual.i'm sure he knows the older a body becomes the more mature it looks. let your sons ractions be the giude.

[nudistlifelover]

Hi you say your son has seen you nude for years, why the sudden worries he is not seeing anything that he hasn't seen over the years perhaps it is you that is worring because he is getting older and starting puberty

[nudistlifelover]

Hi its me again, My wife and i divorced i met up with a woman i went with as a teenager, she had a 16 year old daughter and a 12 year old son, i had been a nudist for years and had been nude all over the world. I told the woman i was a nudist, and at the time i was working abroad doing a month on and a month off, when i was home i went to a nudist club regular, i had an all over tan, i tried to get my g/f to come to the club she came but would only go topless, fair enough her choise.
The daughter came barging in the bed room as i was getting out of bed nude, she saw my allover tan, and asked why i was tanned all over, i told her whist i was abroad when i was not working i sunbathed nude in the desert, and when i was home i went to the nudist club. The mother went daft because the daughter had seen me nude, but at the same time wore seethrough clothes in front of the daughters friends, male and female, the daughter said to her mother that she was old enough to do what she wanted and was coming to the nudist club with me, i can assure you there was nothing s----l but all her friends came with us the relationship eventualy finished but the daughter is still going to the nudist club and so is her husband and adult children