Heteromantic love and asexual intimacy

[willynillyuk]

I suppose it is because I am born anatomically asexual, no genitalia, no testosterone and no ------ instincts, that I appear to be the only nudist alive who is not obsessed with unproductive recreational --- to the exclusion of life.

To me --- is for procreation, which alas I cannot do; I have no option. To everyone else it is a drug, addictive.

Throughout the western world we seem to have forgotten that we get a mere 80 or so years on this planet, to see everything, to travel everywhere, to discover life around us, to share experiences, to find true activity and excitement and to share them all. Instead western humanity spends 65 years chasing gratuitous --- 24/7 and then lies in tears on its deathbed regretting those wasted years; too late .....unless of course he/she is too intellectually undeveloped, unevolved to know better.

Relationships break up because the --- is wrong, regardless that there are other common factors, personality, humour, mutual interests, looks. Women stay with men who beat hell out of them just because the --- is right and they are obsessed with it to the point of a sickness. Is this really living?

So in effect I am the lucky one, who can see the bigger picture. But then I am equally unlucky in that I am alone in this. Never have I met a female partner or companion who is happy at the prospect of a true friendship, maybe even love, with a male, without the uncontrolled urge taking her ambitions beyond the ------ threshhold.

So I am resigned without much hope to looking for a friendcess (maybe several) a true female friend, for heteromantic intimacy, for fun, beauty, adventure ....not just rubbing skin together. Because I want to see the bigger picture before I die and have a friendcess or two to share it with.

I am not holding my breath because purple is not my best colour!

[mossytrail (deleted)]

willynillyuk wrote: I suppose it is because I am born anatomically asexual, no genitalia, no testosterone and no ------ instincts, that I appear to be the only nudist alive who is not obsessed with unproductive recreational --- to the exclusion of life.



You are not alone. Although I do have genitalia (anatomically male), I sometimes wish I didn't! Until the age of 33 I believed I was asexual; but then I fell in love with a man, after having known him over a year.

So I tried the gay scene for a little while, and didn't like it. I could change one word in your statement, and apply it to me: I apper to be the only gay man alive who is not obessed with unproductive recreational --- to the exclusion of life.

From my Internet searches, I have figured out that there is gender-reassignment surgery, but not gender-removal surgery. Society thinks in such rigid dichotomies, you are expected to identify as one gender or the other; in order to qualify for removal of male genitalia, I would have to prove I was trans (which I am not) by living as a woman for a time (which I don't know how to do). Not that I could ever afford it anyway.

Anyway, you aren't missing much. --- is very much overrated, and, having had it both good and not-so-good, I find I can take it or leave it. It can be a nice thing to have -- like the hot fudge topping on the ice cream cone of a relationship -- but it hardly determines whether the relationship itself is good. I have too many things I want to experience in life to spend overmuch time pursuing that next bedroom encounter. If someone cared to join me in that adventure of life, he (or she) would be welcome, and --- might (or might not) be part of it; but I'm not going to wait around.

Live was I ere I saw evil